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Friday, February 03, 2006
Sometimes, things just aren't what they seemed to be..
In total solitary for one whole night and one whole day, I began to wonder..
We wronged those good souls because we expect (mark that word) them to do as we would have done. Whatever the reason(s) our so-called 'logical, sensible and analytical' mind might have processed, in the end it does not even give you the basis of the reason WHY it is so. We can only assume.. which is bad.. of what the person is thinking. No minds are alike. They might not even think or rationalise or analyse like you at all. It is unfair then to assume based on what we believe which they might not at all. What we cling dearly might be just like a piece of thrash by the sidewalk to them which no one bothers to look twice.
Perhaps then we could try putting ourselves into their shoes and consider the circumstances around them. But how well do you fit into that shoe? There are certainly some things that we could never understand unless we had been through it given that we are in the same situation and same circumstances.. perhaps then we could understand a bit better.. but never totally.
Give them a benefit of doubt then. Sometimes, when we try to be rational, we tend to forget to take into account of the little things that we take for granted such as health and family. What if.. they meant good but just out of a sudden their seemingly good health just fails.. then they could not deliver what they had promised. Or what if, suddenly and unexpectedly, a loved one falls ill or passes away..
It's hard though, sometimes to give the benefit of a doubt because everything seems to be going against the odds. So then must we continue to think good of a person or are we in denial of the bad that has come out of it? Wisdom or naiveness? Is it being nice or just plain stupidity? Is there then a timeline or is there a line which once crossed, we could conclude that their intentions and actions are ill-willed? Does the belief of "there is good in everyone" exist? Are there such a thing as "people are just born bad"?
No, believe your beliefs. They made you who you are..
On the contrary then, does by abandoning your beliefs make you deny who you are? because you are to be who you are.. right?
Beliefs then border on a fine line. They can make you or break you. So, decide wisely which to adopt.. which means it's up to wisdom now. And they say wisdom comes with maturity and experience. Boy, it's gonna be a long long journey...
posted by Charis at 2:07:00 am
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